Our words discssed all topics; from the start, that here, unlike the Hollywood films that he has seen, it takes time spent to get know someone, build comfortability, and "chat them up" before you ask them out; you can't just ask a fellow out to dinner after the first meet - that person might seem like a creep.
He told me that most young people in this city spend pockets full of money at the clubs, called boliches, to meet a potential person to call novio or novia (boy/girl friend), but to be careful when going here because some have created a saying that "a boyfriend is a good thing for rainy days, holidays, and sundays." Ojó, he says, (watch out!) many many of the people at these places already are in a relationship. He then told me about people whom he has chatted up for 8 months in hopes of a relationship before they expressed that they already were in a strong relationship of 3 years.
He then told me what I thought was very similar to back home in Oregon, about the places to search if you are searching for a something that will last a bit longer. It was that though the boliches are so popular among the youth for a hangout spot, the longest relationships start when you are making friends in the walls of the school, or the church, or the after-hours club or organizaion that you participate in, and that searching for people up to 3 or 4 years older is not a strange thing to do.
He then checked his watch and we split ways.
"Chao amigo, muchas gracias para el ayuda"
"De nada, pero esté es consejo solamente."
It is nothing, but this is only advice....
This is something that can only learned on ones own.
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